Holding hands may seem like an innocent gesture, but they show more than a simple interlocking of fingers. Your hands are one of the most essential parts of your body: you build with them, feed with them, hold with them, touch with them, fight with them; they are the tools of the human body. To take a hold of another’s hand is to break from living individually. It is to link yourself to another being, to momentarily entwine your life with another’s, to promise, for a moment, that you need not face the world alone. More simple, more aesthetically naive than other forms of affection, i.e kissing, hugging, sexing.., the act of holding hands is often trivialized in its true implications. As the Beatles once said” all I want to do is hold your hand .”
I mean like just not your looks are cute but your personality too. The things you say are cute. Your voice is so cute. Your smile is so cute. How you talk to me is so cute. I like talking to you. I really really like it. I like how I can call you in the middle of the night and talk till one of us falls asleep. Even though you can be really weird sometimes I still like that. I like you and just you.
What does being in a “Relationship” mean to me?
People ask me this question all the time, in my opinion being a relationship means playing your part instead of letting one person carry all of the responsibilities, that meaning being there for them and not walking away when things don’t go as you planned them to be because you understand that no matter who’s relationship it is it’s not going to be 100% perfect, you know? When in a relationship you need to take responsibility of your actions, when you mess up don’t blame it on your significant other, no that you messed up and work together to work towards a resolve that makes both of you happy. not just one person, Remember compromise works wonders. When I am in a relationship my significant other’s happiness is my priority so I would do whatever it may take to make them genuinely smile and be happy, do you know why? When you two are happy your path become clearer. As for arguments and fights, know that they are mere stepping stones to building a stronger and lasting relationship, but only if two people are willing to talk things out peacefully instead of argue with one another over frivolous issues because as you both begin to talk things out with one another you begin to understand things from their point of view, you begin to see why they feel or do the things they do and when you understand that you know more about your girlfriend of boyfriend which in return builds a stronger and more understanding relationship. This is my opinion, so see it as you may see fit.
I like you. And only you. No, I will not get bored of you. No, I will not lie to you. No, I will not lose feelings for you. No, I will not hurt you like someone from the past did. No, I won’t leave you for someone else. I understand these things happened before, but that doesn’t mean it’ll happen with me. If you spend most of our relationship being scared, it’ll end because you pushed me too far away. If things change, we’ll deal with it then, but until then, I’m all yours.
When you get into a relationship, you should have only one desire, and that is to give your best to the relationship. People put their best foot forward, yet at times, the relationship falls apart, eventually leaving one to wonder what happened. The simplest of ways to maintain a good relationship is to talk to one another. Ever wondered why your relationship with friends is so rewarding? It’s because you communicate. Talk to your partner and share your feelings, if there is something about your partner that is bothering you, convey it to them as sensitively as possible. Having communication keeps the love flowing steadily. One needs to be in the right state of mind to successfully make a relationship last. One has to be comfortable in their own skin, as only then can they share them selves with another.
It is very important that you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness. You can’t expect your partner to be the main source of your happiness. Know, that fights and arguments are inevitable in every relationship. The difference in how these disagreements affect different relationships, depends on the way they are reacted to. Never over analyze a fight, try to find a solution and leave the blame game behind. No one wants to be pointing fingers. Remember to forgive and forget, who wants to to go to sleep being mad you know? To have and to create a healthy relationship takes equal effort from both people. It’s takes sharing, caring, love, being apologetic, forgiving and having realistic expectations. <3
Don’t stop chasing.
I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying. Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy. They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming. They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep. They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face. But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop. The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1. The constant calls turn into not calling at all. And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments. In order for a relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing. Just because the person you want is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the time when you’re trying to win them over.
Why? Because it shows how much the person cares about you as well as putting in effort to talk to you. They’re willing to check up on you just to make sure you’re safe. It’s cute.
You know, the part of the relationship where you get to know the person first. You’d do anything just to impress the person, trying to get them to like you. The part of the relationship where all you want to do is talk to the person and your head is just focused on making them become yours. Everything’s just cuter, especially those never-ending text messages and those late night phone calls.